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So the HR lady realized that they had made a mistake with the $89 for Jen's insurance and dropped it down to $40something (the difference between the $125 family plan and the $80something employee plus child plan) post-tax. And she made sure I knew about the Queer Tax, which I did. (By the way, the Queer Tax in this case amounts to an extra $117 per paycheck that is added to my taxable income, because that's how much my job pays to insure a dirty, dirty queer.)

The HR lady made a point to let me know that this whole "having to put the same-sex spouse post-tax" was such a pain and made things so /difficult/ and "blah blah, if the rest of the country, blah blah, the IRS says we have to..." and after rolling my eyes over the phone about 60 times I finally managed to say, "Yeah, you should see my taxes." I'm really sorry my unfair tax penalty is difficult for YOU. ;)

But in the continuing saga of the health insurance, today our prescription cards came. With my name and Punk's name on them. ARGH!

I guess I'll be calling HR /again/!! Annoying.

Current Mood: annoyed

I am so effing pissed right now. It's a good thing it's Saturday because I could seriously strangle an HR person right now. (No offense to anyone working in HR.)

When we got all of the benefits information for my new job, we decided to compare the health plans with Jen's job. We thought we hit the jackpot! The coverage was good - REALLY good (one of the perks of working in the hospital system, I guess). And about $60/paycheck cheaper than Jen's. So of course I filled out all of the forms to sign us up, turned them in, and got a note so we could cancel Jen's insurance. Great? Not.

The new coverage starts June 1st, which is umm, Monday. I get a notice in the mail TODAY "verifying" my payroll deductions for benefits.

Instead of the "Employee + Family" health plan for $125 pre-tax/paycheck and the "Employee + Family" eye insurance plan for $16 pre-tax/paycheck, I am signed up for:

1. "Employee + Child" health plan for $81 pre-tax/paycheck PLUS "Non-Qualifying Dependent" health plan for $89 post-tax/paycheck
2. "Employee + Child" eye plan for $11 pre-tax/paycheck PLUS "Non-Qualifying Dependent" eye plan for $9 post-tax/paycheck

I am furious. FURIOUS. On so many levels.

1. Is this NOT something they could have mentioned ON THE SIGN UP FORMS?
2. Is this NOT something they could have mentioned IN THE BENEFITS PRESENTATION?
3. Is this NOT something they could have mentioned WHEN I TURNED MY FORMS IN?
4. The notice I received TODAY (05-30) which is dated 05-26 says that if I need to make changes, I can do them BEFORE 05-25.

EFF YOU to the benefits department for this oversight, and EFF YOU for sending something dated AFTER the "change date" and the biggest EFF YOU OF ALL to the effing Defense of Marriage Act for screwing my LEGALLY MARRIED family out of all of this money! That is *(&#(*^$ highway robbery and it is NOT right and it is NOT Constitutional and honestly? I am so angry right now that I can see why some people say they won't be friends with anyone who votes against marriage equality.

Current Mood: pissed off

CONGRATULATIONS, KATE AND TRISH!!!

I am so proud of you guys. xoxoxoxo

Current Mood: ecstatic

Current Mood: contemplative

Same-sex marriage and parenting looks like this:

Terrifying, right?

Current Mood: angry

Heck yeah, kids. Three down, forty-seven to go.

Woo and hoo, as Corey Jo would say.

Current Mood: impressed

Barack Obama, June 5, 2006

And I should say that personally, I do believe that marriage is between a man and a woman.

Just in case y'all think he's a friend to the gays.

Current Mood: calm

Well, that's it. One more Constitutional Convention and the damned marriage amendment goes to popular vote in 2008. I am ready to throw up. I mean, really - the same senators and representatives will be in office at the next ConCon so it's not like anything is going to change. My peeps voted against, of course, but that won't change anything when my marriage license is invalid and I have to take my wife off of her child's birth certificate.

Sometimes I really hate people. Like, a lot. Because they must really, really hate me, Jen, and Frankie.

Current Mood: devastated

Here I am, entering books into a database. This is thrilling, let me tell you! At the rate I am going, I will be out of a job in a week unless there is more work on the horizon. I suppose I could pace myself but it's tedious and I would like it to be done.

It will be pitch black when I have to walk back to my car. It's kind of creepy because my office is in the middle of where the riots were and there are a lot of broken and boarded-up windows... so it's like walking through a ghost town. In the dark. Fun!

I am on pins and needles about this Constitutional Convention business. I hit refresh on Bay Windows every five minutes or so, waiting to see if they are going to recess or continue talking. Please, people, keep talking! Think of my family!

If a constitutional amendment to ban same-sex marriage goes to a popular vote, even here in the People's Republic of Massachusetts, it will pass. But what I want to know is, why does ANYONE think that any civil rights issue that affects a minority should be put to a popular (aka: majority) vote?

Guh.

Current Mood: sad

Just finished filing my Federal taxes online. I guess I have my deductions all correct and everything, since I'm getting a little teensy bit back. I'm not complaining. Hello, money!

I'm frustrated, though, because I couldn't file my State return. I had to file my Federal return as "single" because the poopyhead Feds won't recognize my legal marriage, but then when I went to do the State part, there was no way for me to change it and it would only let me file State as single.

And I don't /want/ to file as single (and it wouldn't technically be legal anyway, since in this State we /are/ married)... so I didn't file. Poo.

bellabooks had told me that when she did her tax return there was a spot in her State return that asked if she was in a same-sex marriage or something like that... but not mine. I guess when Jen comes home I'll do her taxes with a different free tax prep company and see if something comes up. Otherwise, we'll just have to get forms for our State return and mail them in.

Jen's return is always much more exciting, though. Those big student loans have to count for SOMETHING.

(My student loan interest - $190. Her student loan interest - $4500.)

Current Mood: frustrated

Okay, you know what really pisses me off?

The conservative argument that revolves around the fact that GLBT folks aren't excluded from marriage, as they can marry any opposite-sex partner they want, just like everyone else.

It makes me so angry I can't even form coherent sentences. What kind of cold-hearted arrogance leads someone to claim that it is not discriminative (is that a word?) to forbid someone from marrying the partner of his/her/hir choice? I suppose it's easy to smugly make such a statement when the current law is on your side. After all, most of the people making the statements have the state-given go-ahead to marry /their/ chosen partners.

It's the arrogance that kills me - the claim that same-sex marriage rights are "special" rights because queers are already allowed to marry - just maybe not the person they'd choose. That just seems so mean-spirited to me that it breaks my heart. Just hearing the words crushes me. How can you even rationally /discuss/ something like that - that it's perfectly okay to let /some/ people marry partners of their choosing and tell other people they can't... but can choose this other person that isn't in their league?

The whole thing makes me want to throw up.

Current Mood: sick

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Entries tagged with same-sex marriage

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CT overturns ban on same-sex marriages

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