Calgon, take me away

[judecorp]

So the formal offer came in from Florida and it's pretty much everything Jen wanted. My prediction is that she will be out of Massachusetts in a month's time. Sucks on many levels, but I'm especially dreading finishing all of Dad's house stuff by myself.

She has to make her official decision tomorrow and let them know. If she accepts and goes, there's really no need for me to keep that infertility appointment - I wouldn't want to go through that whole arduous and emotional process alone. I've been waiting so long for this, for the possibility of this, it's just... augh.

Having to afford a second apartment down in Florida would mean there'd be no money for airfare/visits.

So far, 2006's not looking so hot, either.

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[eight.livejournal.com]

There's a chance this anecdote won't help at all because you're in such a tough situation and for sure, I have discussed things like this to Lisa and we've been pretty challenged. But:

About a year ago, I was driving through a town in New Jersey with my bff and our camp director Linda. Linda's husband was leaving in about a month to go live in China for two years and she wasn't able to go along. We drove by one of the million-dollar apartments in the centre of town and she said, "That's where the assistant director of the Y lives." I asked where she was from and she said, "Maryland, that's where her husband is."

I naively said, "Husband? Why don't they live together?" And Linda said, "Because Jenny, if believe you're going to be together forever, it's okay to not live together for a little while. Sometimes you get a job offer and even though someone you love can't go with you, it might be the best choice for you." And I suppose she knew that better than either of us in the car.

It's still not easy, but if you put the years that you and Jen have been together, and continue that line on into infinity ... a stretch in Florida while not easy, might turn out to be insubstantial when you're growing old together. I wish the best for both of you.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

It's not the living apart part that bothers me. Not at all. It's everything else.

Do you have anecdotes for that?