Mama poo

[judecorp]

I'm on this online board that was originally for mamas of July '07 babies but now has expanded and is mostly summer '07 babies with some outliers. Well, today someone posted a video of her baby walking. Her baby was born on October 18th.

I try not to harp on the whole "Punk is not walking" thing but umm, this baby is 3.5 months YOUNGER than mine. Yes, she's an early walker, and yes, Punk is still not "abnormal" yet (next month, baby, next month!), but it still makes me feel like a great big pile of mama poo.

Time for bed.

Comments

[yip95.livejournal.com]

i know it's hard, but it's much easier if you try not to take this stuff personally. I know you know this, though. It's certainly not anything you're *doing* to Punk. You're not binding her feet or tying her down. It is who she is, and you'll help her out in any way you can, and bring in outside help, etc., but it doesn't (and shouldn't) reflect badly on you as a mama. Just like the positive things about her aren't really your doing, either. You encourage her, sure, and you provided some of her genes, but it's not like you chose which ones to give her. ;)

And I definitely take credit for some of Z's great and not-so-great qualities, so i'm not saying you shouldn't at all. But i guess it's easier to see the separation when I'm dealing with an adopted kid, and having done foster care. We sure as hell helped Shaya achieve as much as she could during her stay with us, but what she *could* achieve had nothing to do with us, or her parents, it was all her. (and she didn't walk until about 15 months adjusted, so...)

anyway, i'll stop throwing stupid "buck up" advice in your direction. I'm sorry you're feeling like poo. Parents shouldn't brag (yeah, right...). ;) I know, sooner than you'd like, Punk'll be running into traffic every 5 seconds and you'll be wishing she'd been even more delayed...

[estrange.livejournal.com]

Don't worry too much yet. D didn't start walking until 14 months and I know other kids who didn't walk until 16 months. We got D the Leapfrog Learning Band Walker toy thing at 12 months and he LOVED LOVED LOVED it! I think it helped him out learning how to walk. Of course he was so used to using it that when he took his first steps he had his hands straight out in front of him because he was so used to pushing the toy! He looked like a mummy but it was so cute! M didn't really play with it at all though. I still have it if you would like it.... though it might be tough finding a box big enough to ship it in.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

We have several walker toys and she walks with them just fine (when she wants to). Last weekend at the grocery store she walked for at least 20 minutes with a kid-sized shopping cart all by herself - all I did was turn it when she was going to crash into something. At day care she walks outside with push toys, too. She's had push toys since she was 11 months. It's so frustrating!

Thanks for the offer, though. It's sweet.

[estrange.livejournal.com]

Don't worry, she'll be walking any day now I just know it. Especially if she's walking with walker toys!

[folkyboy.livejournal.com]

aww. i'm sure she'll be walking around before you know it! ¤hugs¤

[lizardjee.livejournal.com]

jaxen did not walk until xmas day when he was almost 15 mths old. he just decided to get up and do it, kind of like he just started talking. lol.
she will surprise you

[colleenod.livejournal.com]

I'm sorry. It's definitely hard when other moms are bragging about what their kids are doing and it's impossible not to compare.

I think Yip95 said it well. It doesn't reflect on you as a mother. But I can see how it makes you feel badly.

I often wish things on people when they do stuff like that. Like... a mom I'd just met was going on about how she thought teething pain was a myth. Her evidence? Her son never complains when he's teething. From her sample of 1, she just believes this to be true. It must be that some whiny parents exaggerate the pain of teething. It can't simply be that she lucked out in that regard with kid #1, right? She was pg at the time, so I wished a cranky teether on her for her second kid. I don't know. Such thoughts make me feel better. (I never wish anything truly malicious on anyone. Just stuff like that.)

[oppendonnell.livejournal.com]

Dr. Sears says that early walkers are high needs babies who don't learn to move correctly, and late walkers are physically much better walkers.

(Think his kids were late walkers??? I think it's all crap. They learn when they learn....)

[indigodove.livejournal.com]

From all evidence I have, you are a great Mama. But, it's hard when stuff like this comes up. For what it's worth, I think you are doing the right things with her.

[marlatiara.livejournal.com]

When Roo was about 9 months old, we met a little boy who was 10 months old who was running. And I hadn't gotten our diagnosis yet but I still knew that was...wow wow and wow.

Mostly I understand. A lot. At Kindermusik the other babies are 9 months old and sitting, pulling up, and trying to walk. And there we are. I hear you.

[starstealingirl.livejournal.com]

I know I'm not a mom or anything, but... I didn't start walking until 16 months, and I turned out okay. I mean, I'll never be an Olympic athlete or anything, but I got there. In my case, I was very intellectually busy, even as a baby, and I just spent so much time living up in my head that I didn't feel the need to walk until much later than most babies. (Yeah, not a whole lot has changed.) The point being: it doesn't reflect on you, so much as it does on her needs and capacities.

[mayna.livejournal.com]

Maylie was a few days shy of 14 months old when she started walking (she was afraid of falling and unwilling to let go of anything). While Vivi's been walking since July 4, and all day long I'm pulling her off of the kitchen table, the kitchen counters, the small table (where she gets things off the kitchen counters), climbing on the couches and jumping around on them (I think she's going to fly off and crack her head open).

Goooooood lord, she keeps me on my toes. Maylie was SO MUCH easier. But she's turned into a sassy 5 yr old. Who does walk and talk, despite my fears since everyone else's baby walked and talked before she did.

[(Anonymous)]

C isn't walking yet either - she is not even pushing walker toys yet... she pulls up, she sometimes cruises, but not so much... my dad was over the weekend before last for her birthday and said that none of us walked until we were about 14 months and that late walkers grow up to be better readers... right brain left brain stuff with crawling apparently... I don't know whether he's right or not, but I'm just going with it.

She will up and surprise you one day... in the meantime, she can crawl hardcore! [and she has a head full of hair, a cute smile, good table manners, mad signing skillz...]

[tea-soaked.livejournal.com]

anonymous is me - sandra

[shellipsm.livejournal.com]

it's hard when your brain knows one thing, but your heart feels another. I'm sorry for that. Even when we KNOW that our kids are just fine, well, it still sucks when other peers surpass them.

It hurts a lot.

{{{hugs}}}

[ever-abstract.livejournal.com]

tristan isn't walking either.

he will take a step here or there, but he's not close to being independent.

he was born 7/29.

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Have hope! Punk was born 07/01 and she started walking on Friday. As in 2 days ago. :)

[maphia.livejournal.com]

Hello there....I came across your journal from your blogger account. Let me just say your daughter is cute! My partner and I also live in Mass (on the South Shore) and our daughter was also born in July (7/13). I was wondering if it might be ok to add you?

[judecorp.livejournal.com]

Okay, so... somehow a bunch of my LJ comments got lost in a sea of e-mail and I missed this.

Of course I added you - you have Muno as an icon! I love Yo Gabba Gabba!